You know you love me.

by whiteoxeye

Don’t we all love Gossip Girl, all the scandals, twists and turns in the plot? For those of you who do not watch Gossip Girl, here is a brief overview of the series. It is an American teen drama series about the lives of  young adults from elite families on Manhattan’s Upper East Side in New York City. The above video is the promo of the recent episode aired on Monday, season 4 episode 15 “IT-girl happened one night.”

In this episode, Chuck Bass played by Ed Westwick, is desperate to save his late father’s company (Bass Industries). You should have watched the promo above, and would have known that Chuck is trying to get Raina Thorpe, the daughter of the man who bought the company, to fall in love with him so that the Thorpes will spare the company. While Blair Waldorf (Leighton Meester) is trying to get Nate Archibald (Chace Crawford) to sleep with her boss so that she gets a promotion.

For those of you who have been following the series, you would know that the relationships forged in Gossip Girl are mostly based on the costs and rewards of the relationship. For instance, in the most recent episode, Chuck tried to get Raina to fall in love with him so that his company might be salvaged. He started by exposing his most vulnerable side to her, which in this case is the relational capital, which is rarely seen throughout the series, in turn she fell in love with him and tried her best to do what she can for Bass Industries. Despite the superficial basis of forming this relationship, Chuck found himself developing feelings for Raina too.

On the other hand, Upper East Side’s most unlikely couple Blair Waldorf and Dan Humphrey (Penn Badgley) started to form a new relationship that is finally not based on scheming and plotting, but rather of companionship and friendship. Elsewhere, Serena van der Woodsen (Blake Lively) struggles with her feelings for Ben against her family’s disapproval.

It is these formation of relationships that makes the series so intriguing because it applies to us as well! It relates to us well as we are constantly forging relationships for whatever reasons we may have. Even for the people who think that they already know each other, i.e. Dan and Blair; they have always known each other as that irritating eyesore, but little did they know that they will eventually form a whole new relationship and see each other in a new light.

We all have been Chuck or Blair or Serena at some point in time. We form relationships for many different reasons, and agenda. Like Chuck, sometimes we would never have expected ourselves to go further than what we had planned. Or Blair, to have never expected ourselves to end up with the person we have always been at loggerheads with. Or even Serena, to be fighting and maintaining a relationship with someone that our friends and families disapprove of.

Personally, I resent the basis of a relationship that is built on exchange. Some people emphasize too much on this and it causes a dysfunctional relationship. Admittedly, I may have had similar intentions when I formed certain relationships. However, as years passed, I have come to realize that this is ultimately inevitable.

So how were your relationships with others formed? Were you mostly like Chuck and Blair, and their scheming and plotting? Or were your intentions mostly positive? What are your views on forming a relationship based on costs and rewards?